Listen

Listen

Listen When I ask you to listen to me, and you start giving me advice; You have not done what I asked my grandfather with Ry about 2 weeks before he passed away from stomach and liver cancer
When I ask that you listen to me and, you begin to tell me why I shouldn't’t feel that way, You are trampling on my feelingsRy about 2 years old this was during one of his night terrors those sucked bad
When I ask you to listen to me, And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, You have failed me; strange as that may seem.Ry aka the Husky, about 2 years old he loved to play with his slide but, he only liked it when it was upside down
Listen.All that I ask is that you listen, Not talk or do-just hear me.When you do something for me That I need to do for myself, You contribute to my fear and feelings of inadequacy.Ry and Jay's dad Miron on a last fishing trip he passed away on July 4th not too much later
But, when you accept as a simple fact That I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, Than I can quit trying to convince you And go about the business Of understanding what’s behind my feelings. Ry out with us on another "Short Hike" you know to a different time zone.
So, please listen and just hear me, And if you want to talk, Wait a minute for your turn-and I’ll listen to you
Ryan with my Grandma at Homecoming last year, he was Junior Prince. Gram or GG has Alzheimer's and we took her to the game. I'll never forget her comments " I know you are my family and I do not know your names. But, I know you love me and this is so much fun I hope we do this again"



This is a poem Jay brought home from a friend. We thought it was fitting and deserved some recognition. When Ry was a baby we tried to do as much for him as we could so he would not fail. However, over time we learned that we had failed him in his early years by not letting him fail. Crazy as that seems it is true. I am reflecting on my baby boy's life because he turned 18 last Thursday, and now I see why mothers have an empty nest syndrome, and how when you let your children go you are allowing them life's simplest pleasures and learning as we were intended. By trial and error.
Mind you Ry is a Wonderful young man and I am not biased by too much there... He has such great values and core beliefs I know he will accomplish great things and now we sit by and let him go out to the world to explore and discover what his meaning in life is.
I like these two quotes and I share them with you in hopes they will help you on your life's journey.

" We miss 100% of the shots we do not take"...Wayne Gretzky

"Laughter is the sound you make when you are free"... unknown

"A lot of people run to see whose fastest. I run to see who has the most guts"... Steve Prefontaine

Ok so I through an extra one in. I do not think that will surprise anyone.

More to come later....